After reading my friends write up on Don’t think for me, I remembered I had a similar write-up. I would have loved to title this “don’t think for me II” but I wrote this from a different point of view. I hope you enjoy this as well.
We all like to say people like judging. We all don’t like it when we feel we are being judged but we judge others. The funny part is we all don’t think we wrongly judge others. Let me share this story with you.
A nice, innocent, decently dressed lady left the house to deliver a gift to someone at Osu, a suburb of Accra. She got down from a trotro and realized everyone kept looking at her in an odd way but no one approached her to tell her what was wrong. She checked herself out, maybe something was wrong. Lo and behold, something was wrong. Her dress was torn at the back. Her ass was on display. Trotro wahala!! Startled and panicky, she went straight into the first clothing shop she saw just across the street. She found just one blue dress that fit her. It was going for 25gh cedis but all she had was 10gh cedis. The shop owner looked with pity and gave her the dress for 10gh cedis. Now covered she set out to carry out her errand.
After 3 hours, she got home to narrate her story. She told us of how a woman insulted her in her blue dress. She narrated how people looked at her up and down and cursed under their breaths at her in her blue dress. In her naiveness, she asked, ” Is something wrong with my blue dress?” Knowing what she had been through that day, I didn’t see anything wrong with it. It was above the knee and it wasn’t her fault that she had a voluminous body that made her look sexy in the dress. It was a nice blue dress and it was perfect for her. But not for the town I must say. We told her not to be worried about the events of the day. We got her another dress to wear and she was fine. As I thought of it, I found myself saying how people like to judge and never give others the benefit of the doubt, then, I put myself in the place of the people on the street not knowing her story. I laughed. I knew the exact thing I would have said. It wasn’t going to be a comment based on me giving her the benefit of the doubt. I was going to condemn her dress. So I also judge people and so do you. As Jesus said, remove the log from your eye before you go removing the speck from your neighbour’s eye. The next time you are tempted to judge, give them the benefit of the doubt. You never know their story. You don’t know what they are going through. Cut them some slack. Please don’t be fast to judge.